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He thought the solution to the discontent was for her to change.

But once on his own, missing the daily interaction with his daughters, he couldn't avoid some reflection. I asked whether there was something I could have done differently.

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Add to that Christians' elevated standards for marriage and you have a recipe for wholesale retreat," wrote Mark Regnerus, associate professor of sociology at the University of Texas at Austin, in The Washington Post on Tuesday.

Regnerus, who lays out his arguments in the book , positioned that young Christians are "suffering the bruising effects of participating in the same wider mating market as the rest of the country," noting that they are increasingly following the narratives of nonreligious Americans."They want love, like nearly everyone else. Sex often follows, though sometimes after a longer period of time — a pattern that confuses them more than most, because premarital sex remains actively discouraged, but impossible to effectively prevent, in the church," he wrote.

Ultimately, he stopped blaming his wife for their problems. "We're given a binary model," says New York psychotherapist Ken Page. People need a better set of options." Sooner or later, there comes a moment in all relationships when you lie in bed, roll over, look at the person next to you and think it's all a dreadful mistake, says Boston family therapist Terrence Real. "It's an open secret of American culture that disillusionment exists.

I go around the country speaking about 'normal marital hatred.' Not one person has ever asked what I mean by that.

A sociologist is arguing that sex, and not scientific belief, is driving more Americans toward secularization, and says that Christians have been "bruised" from being part of the same dating pool as everyone else."Sex has become cheap — that is, not hard to get — because it's much less risky and consequential in the era of birth control.

Perceived barriers to marriage, meanwhile, are getting higher — prompting greater marital delay and fewer marriages overall.

Invariably, we yearn for perfection but are stuck with an imperfect human being.

We all fall in love with people we think will deliver us from life's wounds but who wind up knowing how to rub against us.

After all, you can wait years for someone else to change." What he decided was, indeed, there were some things he could have done differently—like not tried as hard to be so noncontrolling that his wife felt he had abandoned decision-making entirely.

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