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It is hosted by the Universities of the Witwatersrand and Western Cape, the African Population and Health Research Centre and the Nigerian Academy of Science.The Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation is a Strategic Partner.Understanding the science of attraction can’t guarantee you a date tonight, but it can point the way towards forming mutually benefiting relationships with other people. Well, first, it turns out that one of the strongest predictors of whether any two people will form a relationship is sheer physical proximity.

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But even online, geography continues to have an influence.

After all, the point of online dating is eventually to meet someone offline – and it costs more time and money to meet someone who lives further away.

In fact, decades of research has shown that attraction is most likely to be sparked when two people perceive themselves as being very similar to each other. It could be similarity in terms of sociodemographics – most relationships are formed between people who are similar in terms of age, social class, occupational background, and so on.

But more important than sociodemographics is similarity of values – everything from musical tastes to political orientation.

And my own research has shown that love sometimes really is blind.

People in romantic relationships, particularly new relationships, are biased in how they perceive their partners.

It turns out that both women and men value traits such as kindness, warmth, a good sense of humour, and understanding in a potential partner – in other words, we prefer people we perceive as nice.

Being nice can even make a person seem more physically attractive. Consuming alcohol, for example, really can make everyone else appear more physically attractive.

They view their partners as more attractive than objective reality – something I’ve called the “love-is-blind bias”. This idea of reciprocity may sound very simple, but it has incredibly important implications for all relationships.

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